While you may not be able to change a narcissistic colleague, you can shift how you engage with them. Here’s how:
- Set clear boundaries: Narcissists often push limits. Define your professional boundaries and hold firm—whether it’s sticking to your role, declining unrealistic demands, or limiting personal conversations.
- Keep a paper trail: Document your work and interactions, especially if you suspect they may try to take credit or distort events. Email summaries, time-stamped files, and detailed notes can provide protection.
- Avoid emotional entanglement: Try not to take their behavior personally. Remember, their actions reflect their internal struggles, not your worth.
- Maintain your self-worth: Focus on your accomplishments and strengths. Don’t allow their criticism or dismissal to erode your confidence.
- Seek support: Talk to a mentor, therapist, or trusted coworker. Sometimes just knowing you’re not alone can be incredibly validating.
- Know when to escalate: If a narcissist’s behavior is crossing into harassment, bullying, or creating a hostile environment, it’s okay to speak up. HR departments exist for a reason.
