So, what’s the alternative to competitive parenting? It starts with a mindset shift—from performance to presence.
Here are a few ways to move away from competition and toward connection:
- Celebrate effort, not just outcomes. Let your child know that trying hard, learning from failure, and being kind matter more than trophies or test scores.
- Model self-compassion. Kids who see their parents showing grace toward themselves are more likely to do the same.
- Limit social comparison. Be mindful of how much time you spend scrolling and comparing your family’s life to others.
- Reaffirm unconditional love. Regularly tell your child you love them for who they are, not what they do.
- Encourage individuality. Every child is different. Support their unique strengths and interests, even if they don’t align with conventional standards of success.
